Addiction is a family issue. There is a family solution
The Differences Between Our Family Recovery Support (coaching), Therapy, Counseling or Sponsorship
Coaching is intended for those who want to reach a higher level of performance, satisfaction or learning. People who feel they've lost time to addiction are especially eager to do well and enjoy life. They make committed and enthusiastic coaching clients. Therapy is for those who are seeking relief from emotional or psychological pain. Coaching ethics and guidelines require that if a client is primarily seeking relief from emotional or psychological pain they must to be referred to a therapist. Coaching is often used concurrently with therapy but should not be considered a substitute for therapy.
Coaching focuses on the present and future while therapy focuses primarily on the past. In therapy the concern is how unresolved issues are impacting the present. In coaching the question is what can be done today to move the client forward toward their goals and the realization of their vision.
Counseling refers to giving advice which coaches rarely do. Counseling implies a “one-up” relationship where the counselor is the expert, whereas the coach is neither expert nor authority nor healer; rather, the client is the expert about his or her life. In order to be considered ready for coaching, a coaching client must be healthy and competent enough to co-create the coaching relationship while relating to the coach as a partner.
Coaching can be distinguished from counseling and many other professional relationships in that coaching is based on partnership. Counselors, doctors, and consultants have expert knowledge that they impart in the form of advice, diagnosis, or providing a solution. A coach's job is to get the client to think! Coaches rarely give advice. They don’t diagnose. Instead, they work with you to come up with your own solutions, to make your own choices, and they support you to stay on track and take the actions that bring about transformation.
Coaches differ from personal helpers such as friends and family because coaches don’t have a personal stake in the choices you make. Coaches aren’t affected by what you do or don’t do the way family and friends are. That means that coaches can be more objective, unbiased and impartial. We work with you as you are in the present moment. We aren’t influenced by your past. We don’t have preconceived ideas about who you are. Coaches take you as you are right now and help you find out how you’d how you’d like to be different in your life. And then we coach you to achieve it.
"Families are the solution, not the problem" Timothy Harrington, CEO, Family Recovery School of Colorado
How Is a Coach Different From a Sponsor?
Sponsors come from 12-step programs such as Al-anon and Families Anonymous.
Sponsors are not paid professionals; they benefit personally from the service they give you.
A sponsor’s job is to help their sponsee work through the 12 steps and using the program and fellowship effectively to stop the negative behavior. Sponsors have a singleness of purpose—they stick with the steps and traditions. Often the focus is on cleaning up the past.
A coach isn’t limited to using the steps and traditions and coaches don’t focus on the past. Recovery Coaching is not affiliated with any 12-step program and does not promote a particular path or way to recover. However, many recovery coaches are members of 12-step programs and have both a sponsor and a coach! A coach’s job is to challenge, provide accountability and support their client as they make changes and begin to have a better quality of life.