Addiction is a family issue. There is a family solution
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“There’s a long learning process for families – we move from knowing that there’s something wrong, to acknowledging it, then to realizing that we have to deal with it professionally somehow.” - Bill, recovering parent
The only person whose behavior you can control is you.
Setting clear boundaries, respecting yourself and focusing on your own life enables you to stay sane and cope better.
Boundaries also allow your loved one to experience the consequences of their actions and therefore make informed choices for themselves.
The old family recovery rules no longer apply, yet the new rules haven’t been wrItten because each family has to write their own unique approach based on who they are and not who the treatment center thinks they are.
Intervention into families must by characterized by gentleness and humility rather than by clinical arrogance born of knowing THE truth about the impact of addiction and recovery on the family.
Individual, Couple and Family Coaching & Ongoing Support Private, coaching sessions over the phone and/or in your home. We work with you either prior to the loved one entering treatment (pre-hab), while the client is in addiction treatment, and/or as an ongoing aftercare support. Included is unlimited email and text in between each session. These sessions can and in some cases definitely should include your loved one.
Optional B.A.L.M.™year long Family Recovery Education Program Done online and over the phone designed to teach up to 4 family members a proven method to help them increase their own well-being as well as their loved one’s chance at recovery. We call it "Recovery Access 24/7, 365”. It consists of over 200 hours of recorded calls by experts accessible at any time and searchable by subject. The family, over the year, also gets hours and hours of weekly live group calls facilitated by a professional coach. It includes a workbook. And so much more. Click The B.A.L.M.™ for more detailed info. You can do this course from the comfort and convenience of your own home or wherever you happen to be.
B.A.L.M. Testimonial “Coaching & The B.A.L.M. program together, is like taking years of Al-anon and putting it into 12 weeks. The B.A.L.M. has brought me to a more center of calmness and has helped me come from a place of love when dealing with my son. In addition, it has helped dealing with others I interact with in my life. My conversations with everyone have changed drastically after learning to script and remembering to Be A Loving Mirror. The live interactive calls, B.A.L.M. principles, 7 steps to B.A.L.M. and talks with my assigned recovery buddy have been such a blessing to my own recovery and also in supporting my son's recovery (not his disease). This is a very condensed version of my love of the B.A.L.M. program, trust me I could go on longer.” - Stacey, recovering parent
Why does our approach work?
The "family intervention” approach works because it focuses on the total picture and all of the people and dynamics involved.
We do not single out the addicted loved one as “the problem” and we don't let labels and myths keep him or her from being held responsible for either fixing the problems or living with the consequences.
More importantly, we work with the family members who want the situation to change, all but ignoring the addicted loved one, who a lot of the time has a vested interest in things staying the same.
It works because we focus on the people who want to change rather than trying to force change onto someone else. Whether dealing with a family, a couple, or anyone else, success always means working with whomever is motivated.
What do we cover?
change and motivation
accomodating reluctance to change
self-care and self rewards
address family specific strengths, needs and challenges
accessing community support
assertive referrals to specialized family services that are beyond our scope
coping with anxiety
importance of ongoing recovery management checkups as a means to improve the long-term outcomes
safety and support
coping with lapses
trust and forgiveness
discovering the power of choice
rebranding the family
creating mission statements for all family members
In my experience, the only way I know to change the type of person that you believe that you are — to build a new and better identity for yourself — is to do so with small, repeated actions.